I definitely feel that men and women use language
differently. I would agree with the
textbook that women generally communicate about feelings and seek a connection
and intimacy whereas men seek to communicate about common interests and
achievements. This is not to say that
this stereotype fits everyone. In most
of my relationships, I have ended up dating men who take more of the
traditional woman role and want to talk about the relationship and their
feelings whereas I do not. Also in Table
4.5 in the textbook “Conclusions Drawn from Research on Gender Differences in
Communication”, I definitely use stronger expletives than most men I know. J But for the most part, if you walk around
your office or sit at your child’s soccer game and listen to other
conversations, you will hear the women gossiping about other moms, or talking
about a great purse they bought, or a funny thing their child did that
day. You will most often hear the men
talk about the game on TV last night, or how they grill their steak on the BBQ
or what kind of car they drive. I think
that communication between men often is superficial and surface level, whereas
women are looking for that immediate connection and someone that will become a
part of their lives.
I agree as well. The book is definitely correct about women. We do like to talk about our feelings and connection to them. I believe this is the reason we have great conversations with other women who have either been in the same situation or have a great understanding of what we are feeling. Men who have common interest are what spark their conversations. I don’t think they get too feeling oriented with those conversations. I love your example! It’s true women are talking about whole other things together than men who speak together in conversations.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you. The book is right on about women as we tend to be more emotional and have to speak our feelings. I find that in my past reltionships especially in arguments I would always want to communicate right away and talk things out where my ex would never want to talk and be open about things. I think depending on the subject we differ in the way we communicate about things where women communicate on a more emotional level and feelings where men do not.
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